Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate the love, care and strength of the women who have shaped our lives. For many, it’s a joyful occasion spent with family – filled with memories, laughter and gratitude. But for families affected by dementia, the day can bring mixed emotions.
If your mum is living with dementia, or you support someone who is, you might be unsure how best to approach the day. The key is to focus on comfort, simplicity and connection. With a little thought and a lot of love, you can still make Mother’s Day meaningful – even if it looks a little different.
Here are some gentle, supportive ways to celebrate Mother’s Day with someone living with dementia.
Keep things calm and familiar
When planning your celebration, it’s important to think about what will feel most comfortable for your mum. A quiet, familiar setting is often best – big events or new surroundings can sometimes cause confusion or anxiety.
Whether at home or in her usual room at the care home, keeping the environment relaxed will help her feel safe. A cosy afternoon tea, a favourite meal or simply sitting together can be more meaningful than an elaborate outing.
Bring back treasured traditions
Familiar routines and activities from the past can help trigger happy memories and a sense of connection. Revisiting old family traditions can be a lovely way to celebrate – even if they’re adapted in small ways.
Think about the things that have always made Mother’s Day special. Was there a song she loved, a particular flower she used to receive, or a place you always visited together? Simple gestures like listening to favourite music, looking through photo albums or watching a familiar film can help evoke positive feelings and shared memories.
Share your love in writing
A heartfelt card or handwritten note can be a beautiful gift. Even if words are difficult for your mum now, the sentiment behind them still carries meaning. Write about moments you’ve shared, what you admire about her, or simply let her know how loved she is.
She might not respond in the way she once did, but having something she can hold – and revisit – can provide a sense of comfort and familiarity.
Choose thoughtful, sensory gifts
If you’re looking for a gift this Mother’s Day, consider something that engages the senses and brings a sense of ease. Sensory items can offer comfort and emotional stimulation for people living with dementia.
Fresh flowers can brighten a room and their fragrance can lift the mood. Soft blankets, soothing hand creams or framed family photos also make wonderful gifts. A small photo book with names and captions can help support memory and spark gentle conversation.
Allow space for your own emotions Mother’s Day can be especially emotional if your relationship with your mum has changed due to dementia. It’s completely normal to feel a mix of love, loss, gratitude and grief – sometimes all at once.
Try not to put pressure on the day. It’s okay if things don’t go perfectly. What matters most is being present and showing care – even in the smallest moments. Hold her hand, sit together quietly, or simply enjoy a shared cup of tea. These gentle moments can be deeply meaningful.
And remember – you don’t have to celebrate on the exact day. If another time feels easier or more peaceful, that’s just as valid.
Love that endures Dementia may affect memory, conversation and routine — but it doesn’t take away love. By focusing on simple, comforting ways to connect, you can still honour your mum this Mother’s Day in a way that feels true to your relationship.
Every gesture, no matter how small, is a reminder of the love that remains. And sometimes, it’s those quiet moments – a smile, a touch, a familiar song – that speak the loudest.